Monday, May 30, 2005

Inspired Quotes from Sex n the City

A forwarded message definitely worth a read...

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

6. Don't force an attraction.

7. Slower is better.

8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God doesthings decent and in order.

11. Don't settle.

12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he isunstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?

14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for
staying when things are not better.

15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.

16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

17. There's only one reason a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.

20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.

21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.

24. Be honest and upfront.

25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.

26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).

27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).

28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.

29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.

30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.

31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.

32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!

34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.

35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying,let him go.

36. Actions speak louder than words.

37. Never let a man define who you are.

38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.

39. Never borrow someone else's man.

40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.

42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.

43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.

44. Love is a verb ...

45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.

46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

47. All men are NOT dogs.

48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.

49. If you don't love can't love anyone else.

50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.

51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary.

53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.

55. Never become your man's "therapist".

56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.

57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it - but it takes two to make it work.

58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world(within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.

59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.

60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you,You cant force a man to hang out with you.

61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.

62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

63. Never move into his mother's house.

64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.

65. Never co-sign for a man.

66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.

67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.

68. Never let a man mess up your credit.

69. When it's time to let go; let go.

70. Good men should be treated like good men.

71. Don't play games.

72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

74. Compatibility in terms of educationalattainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.

75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.

Monday, May 23, 2005


This blog is inspired by Julz :) .

Like Julz wrote, change is indeed inevitable. You'd never know what the future holds for you. You can only plan but what you imagine the future to be sometimes or most of the time... would not be what is realized.

This year indeed has been a year of many many changes - taken out from my comfort zone and adjusting to work life takes time to adapt. New friends, new colleagues, new environment, new project, new challenges etc.. exciting yet daunting. I've learnt to embrace change. I used to be afraid of it, wondering "oh no, what would happen if all these things I am used to were taken away from me?" but as the months unfold, I began to realize that I can adapt to it. You think you can't, but when change comes... you will naturally fall in its path, and trust me, you will survive!

I am truly on an exciting and rocky road in my life. Change has indeed taught me so much about myself, and I grow stronger each day, knowing who I am and what I can be. And the pillar of my strength is definitely God...

"For God causes all things to work together for good for those who love Him, for those who are called according to His purpose"

Thursday, May 19, 2005

Two sides to every story

I'm on a blogging fest - sorry for the lack of updates - been busy. I do have the inspiration just no time to pen them down. So here goes - 3 new blog entries in a night.. :)

This blog is about how you can view everything from 2 perspectives. Last weekend, after having to work on a Saturday, I was dying to go home.. and surprise, surprise, my car could not start!

So, I was about to think I am having the worst day in the world.. but I decided to not look at it that way. Firstly, I decided not to park at some cheaper open air area but parked in KLCC carpark next to the lift instead. So.. when my car broke down, at least I was safe and sheltered. Also, my good friend happened to SMS me and said she was coming to KLCC just before that happened, so had she not told me, I wouldn't have known that she and her boyfriend were there. So at least someone was there to accompany and calm me down. Then her boyfriend did a great job pretending to be my dad on the phone to the service line, as they wouldn't let me use the service without my dad being there. Another thing was, I actually didn't know the way to go home. So after the car was fixed, my dad came and I tailed his car home... and at the same time, memorizing the directions (as always... my initiative) :)

So all in all, everything happened that day for a reason. So does everything in life. And how you look at it is what makes the difference.

Blessed with the bestest friends in the world!

I read a few years back that if you have 5 close friends that you can really talk to, as in, not just talk but confide in... you are the lucky ones who are happier in life and potentially live longer too. And seriously, it's not easy to find 5 people like that in your life but I suppose I'm one of the lucky few fortunate enough to actually have that luxury!

I've got two really, really good friends from my high school days... those friendships that are hard to break. Even though I was away in Melbourne for 4 years over, Lisa has always always been there for me.. yes, always. I'd turn to the phone, make that call, and there she is making me feel better instantly, knowing exactly what to say and do. And recently, when my car broke down, she was there and she made sure that my car could start before she left the scene, even though she was supposed to be having her bf's birthday dinner. Chin Ai is also one of my closest friends, we go a long way, studying the same course, staying at the same place, having like almost 60% mutual friends.. and the best thing about her is that she stands up for me all the time. An extremely loyal, sincere friend, anyone who does not know her is definitely at a loss. When I was down, she actually cooked for me so that I won't starve myself. She's definitely one friend that has pulled me through very difficult times and we've been through a lot together - yes, and a lot of FUN too!!

Jing Min is another of my best buds from Uni. Always honest with me, she has the ability to analyze things from a different perspective which really saved me from heaps of trouble. Always making sure that I'm ok, one of the most caring & sincere friends I know.. even though she is in Singapore now and is extremely busy, yet makes time for me when needed. We used to camp at each other's house to pull through those stressful exam periods. One of my newer friends, Jes.. feels like I've known her longer than it seems. Also my colleague, she's an amazing woman... full of laughter, makes my work life less mundane and always making sure that I'm ok too. Aahh, and of course not forgetting Haz (who is probably reading this blog and wondering if I'd mention his name) ;) old friend that recently established contact just at the right time in my life. Who else can I call at midnight - 1 am when I can't sleep from drinking too much coffee?? :P And also blatantly honest with me, which I appreciate and has the most optimistic approach to life!! Never fails to cheer me up ;)

Seriously, where do you find friends like that? I am truly, truly blessed. :)

I lost myself...

It dawned upon me
that I had lost myself
the me I used to know ran from me
and I didn't know who I was anymore
the very things that made me, me
I tried to erase, deny and change
and in the end,
I realized it was futile
I can be a better person
but there are some thngs about me that are just
that make me unique, the person that i am..
so thank God that I've been released
from my own prison
and the me I used to know..
has walked into my life once again. :)