Life through the eyes of emery

Of disappointments and hope?

Recently, I've had interesting conversations on the topics above. The first was about disappointment. A good friend of mine told me that we should expect everyone to disappoint us. We had a long debate over MSN on that. The disagreement started when I said that I put a lot of trust on my family and it's not realistic to say that they won't disappoint me, but I emphasized that I would give my family members the benefit of doubt. If family cannot be depended upon, then who can?

Of course, everyone being human will disappoint us, and so will we disappoint them. This has also to do with expectations we set on others, which in turn determines the level of disappointment. I mean, from young, if we expected our parents to show up at a play that we are acting in, and they didn't, we get disappointed. However, I disagreed with the fact that we should expect everyone we meet to disappoint us straightaway and just be prepared for that. I think it's quite sad to do so, because then, everything looks gloomy & cynical. Yes, people do and will disappoint us, but must we live each day, expecting for that to happen?

Another interesting article was sent to me by another close friend, about hope. Hope, he mentions, is actually evil. Again, I see how that can be argued, which once again is linked to disappointment... when we hope for something, and it doesn't happen, we get disappointed. However, again, I beg to differ that hope is evil, because I was at a phase in my life where the only thing I had to cling on to was hope. When there was nothing else left, without hope, I would have lost it all. Though it may seem like some unrealistic optimism, but to me, having hope is better than not. Because not all hopes and expectations disappoint us, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

And I rather focus on the light, and fight off the darkness that distract me along the way. After all, life is about living, so I try to make the best out of each short day. After all, everything is subjective & depends on how we overcome it - be it good things or bad things. It's amazing how we can program our minds to be able to make it through adversity. We, the human race, are indeed stronger than we think.

posted by emeryz @ 7:25 AM